the screaming 20s

“Lost really has two disparate meanings. Losing things is about the familiar falling away, getting lost is about the unfamiliar appearing."

-Rebecca Solnit

we are simply incapable of imagining ourselves on the other side of a profound change, because the present self doing the imagining is the very self that needs to have died in order for the future self being imagined to emerge.

This is why the profoundest changes tend to happen not willed but spawned by fertile despair — the surrender at the rock bo

We create ourselves. The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change

psychoanalyst Allen Wheelis wrote in his 1973 field guide to how people change