the perfectionist's manifesto

I have known many people who spent years in analysis and emerged with a detailed understanding of their major psychodynamics, yet experienced what they uncovered as shameful admissions rather than as expressions of their essential humanity in all its ordinary depravity and virtue

Seems like one of the highest leverage stories for many ppl (me included) to reprogram is the one that goes like: >I am struggling >I am struggling and it is my fault >I am struggling and it is my fault and I have to deal with this on my own >I am going to isolate myself until I am presentable for other humans

when you’ve got a strong inner critic, you’re like an animal caught in a trap — but you’re both the animal and the trap