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Air can neither be created nor destroyed; the total amount of air in the universe remains constant, and if air were all that we needed to live, we would never die. But in truth the source of life is a difference in air pressure, the flow of air from spaces where it is thick to those where it is thin. The activity of our brains, the motion of our bo

The challenge is not to eliminate conflict but to transform it. It is to change the way we deal with our differences

William Ury • Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In

We say of some things that they can't be forgiven, or that we will never forgive ourselves. But we do - we do it all the time. -- Alice Munro, Dear Life

Here are some rules of thumb that might help you navigate whatever practice you are trying out.

Criticizing, judging, or assessing yourself isn’t virtue. It doesn’t help in meditation; it’s just more noise. And if you are criticizing, judging, or assessing yourself, don’t criticize that, and so on, until you wear out and compassion enters.

Criticizin

John Tarrant • John Tarrant : Articles

Question: How can I judge myself less harshly and appreciate myself more?

Ram Dass on self-judgment:

I think that part of it is observing oneself more impersonally. I often use this image, which I think I have used already, but let me say it again. That when you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some ... See more

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