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She says early gender socialization has taught many women to suppress negative statements or fears to be nice, polite, compliant and not “rock the boat.”

There is also the “freeze” psychological and physiological response where a victim appears passive out of fear or avoiding further harm when in a traumatic situation, Book says.

Judging how a victim

One of the main impediments to serious reform in our public school system is parents, through no fault of their own. Parents frequently do not want to speak out about their criticisms of schools, as they fear their children will be punished as a result. Parents also know their children’s teachers – or they should – and don’t want to look like they

Forward motion is an asset, a skill and a job title.

Initiative, desire and being willing to take responsibility are powerful because most of us don’t care enough to bring them to the table.

Going forward requires skills, attitudes and belief. A rare combination.

• Seth Godin

The ideas aren’t uncomfortable, we are.

You don’t have to like the weather to acknowledge that it’s raining.

Perception isn’t passive. It’s active. We don’t just receive information. We construct it based on our past experiences, current needs, and future fears.

Reality is constructed in real time through emotions, assumptions, timing, fear, bias, memory, noise, and ego.

Reality isn’t a fact. It’s a negotiation. It's a mirror. Everyone sees their own reflection. And everyone is convinced that their reflection is the actual room.

It means truly setting the tone for the sport or club’s culture from the top down and doing more work to educate everyone on the signs and effects of abuse while simultaneously shifting towards a healthier model of coaching. It means stronger vetting procedures with firm zero tolerance policies on what is and isn’t acceptable. And it means being

Coaches who win have an extra layer of protection from consequences, as their behavior may be excused or even celebrated as the reason for winning.

“It became this fixation that I would hold on to every single good thing that was said about me and try to shake off any of the bad things, and that is a very, very toxic environment to be in.”