relationship with self

The unspoken belief behind self-improvement is "I'll be worthy when..."

An interesting observation in Maslow's work on self-actualized people is that they tend to be less "introspective" than others. Meaning they spend less time thinking about themselves and their feelings. But they are more attuned to their inner compass when *acting on the world*.

if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.

A leading indicator of personal growth is how curious you are able to be with all your emotions - especially the ones you weren't allowed to feel as a kid.

I think a perfect relationship is a really, really good conversation that keeps on going for your entire life

This is the ultimate trapdoor in the hall of fame; to become a prisoner of one's own persona. The desire for recognition in an increasingly atomized world lures us to be who strangers wish us to be. And with personal development so arduous and lonely, there is ease and comfort in crowdsourcing your identity. But amid such temptations, it's worth... See more

Until we’re treating ourselves with dignity when we are struggling, we’re not healing.

letting go of the idea I need fixing, but also learning to recognize that sometimes under the voice that says "I need fixing" is a voice saying "I'm in pain and alone, come find me & love me" . and responding to that voice feels so different than trying to fix myself