A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.”
Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations.
Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.
fuck this hits so hard. "The process of becoming yourself is not a corporate desk job, and it is not homework. You do not have to treat your flaws like action items that must be systematically targeted in order to receive a return on investment."