perfectionism

The reason this is so liberating, for anyone with even a hint of perfectionism, is that it means you get to give up on the exhausting struggle to take charge of your life, so as to steer it in a new direction. You get to abandon all hope of one day finding the perfect time management system– or perfect relationship, job, neighborhood, etcetera– and

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First, you give a task or a goal the power to determine your worth and happiness. You think, “Getting this job, passing this test, dating this person will change my life and make me happy.” When a perfect performance or the achievement of a specific goal becomes the sole measure of your self-worth, too much is at stake to just start working without

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Another barrier to change is perfectionism’s demand for certainty before action. Because perfectionism says you need to know that your goal is correct before you spend any time or energy on it, you can get stuck spending weeks and months trying to figure out if your goal is worth pursuing in the first place. The issue with making certainty a prereq

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