Online intimacy

Creativity fills the soul.

Consumption drains it.

Selective presence is not disappearing. It is confidence. It is self trust. It is identity that stands on its own. It is curiosity that grows privately. It is taste shaped by experience instead of applause. It is refusing to flatten your life into content segments.

So what are people afraid of when they choose not to be seen? Being out of the loop. Becoming irrelevant. Missing opportunities. Losing motion. Watching everyone else post their perfect curated lives and thinking you need to prove you have motion too. Motion for who though?

We normalized surveillance as participation.

People who stop performing move differently. They wear what they want. They listen to what they want. They order the takeout they crave without wondering if it is trendy. They unlock a lifestyle that feels like their younger self before the world told them what they are supposed to be. Confidence grows naturally. They become their own trend without... See more

You become fragile because every outfit becomes a vote. “Oh you are wearing something from five seasons ago.” God forbid. You start listening to trends instead of your own taste. Taste becomes feedback. Identity becomes reactive. You become a performer instead of a person.

When you are conditioned to reveal everything you become less interesting. You become predictable .

Oversharing destroys the boundary that separates your public self from the private self you actually live with.

People became so predictable that mystery died in front of us. And mystery is the one thing that always made people interesting. What is special about you If I know where you shop? If I know the entire plot of your breakup? This information is for your friends, not for an audience of strangers who only know your @ . At this point people are living... See more