non-coercion
let go of “should”
intrinsic motivation
non-coercion
Non-self-coercion is therefore all about self-awareness and -acknowledgment and consequently locking in life goals and hobbies that are driven by pleasure rather than pain.
Thomas Klaffke • Pleasure Activism
The most sustainable and potent motivation is experiencing joy and curiosity within an activity. Cultivate joy for exercise and fascination with fitness to remove the need for constant external motivation.
Sam Sager • Exploring Our Why
A term I saw on Twitter is “self-coercion.” I assume this means any time you make yourself do something you don’t want to do - the teeth gritted, white knuckle approach.
It would be extremely childish to imagine it was never necessary to do this. Sometimes we have to buckle down and do things which we would rather not.
BUT it should not be your... See more
It would be extremely childish to imagine it was never necessary to do this. Sometimes we have to buckle down and do things which we would rather not.
BUT it should not be your... See more
Self Discipline for Screwups
So rather than view it as a choice between intrinsic or extrinsic motivation, embrace both. Cultivate intrinsic motivation to create a constant source of fuel that doesn’t wane. Embrace goals or desires as they emerge to increase motivation and accelerate action. Just continue to look within for guidance on what you actually want.
Sam Sager • Exploring Our Why
You should stop saying "should"
thereluctantempath.substack.com
if you're one of the people who has removed most "should"s from their life, you may reintroduce them once the central source of truth in your life is your own soul.
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Before you begin meditating, it’s really helpful to adopt a permissive attitude towards your current state: however I am right now, it is fine. I like reminding myself that I don’t need to do anything to receive sensation—the universe will keep on being the universe, and interesting data will come to me, I don’t have to force anything. This can... See more
Sasha Chapin • What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Starting a Meditation Practice
4/ You follow what you think you SHOULD do rather than what you want to do
But when someone tries to force you to do something, your nature is to resist.
This is true even when you try to force yourself with “shoulds” and “have tos.”
Joe Hudsonx.com