Motherhood
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Motherhood
People shying away from having babies because they heard that it’s so hard are making one of those category errors that are inescapable in this rotten decade in this awful century: they think that hard is the opposite of good.
Freddie deBoer • I Didn't Know I Could Feel This Way
Parenthood likewise forces an encounter with the illogic of the market: good fortune means getting to pay someone less than you make to do a job that’s harder and probably more important than your own.
Jia Tolentino • Can Motherhood Be a Mode of Rebellion?
motherhood is humbling:
despite all my attempts to distinguish myself, I’ve ended up like every other mother—on the floor, singing “The Itsy Bitsy Spider”
But strictly speaking, ambivalent is precisely the word two years in, because my feelings on the experience of motherhood do not add up to a tidy conclusion in the positive or the negative, but in a miles-long bracket that includes every possible feeling.
Year Two was emotionally on par with running back and forth between a hot tub and an ice bath,... See more
Year Two was emotionally on par with running back and forth between a hot tub and an ice bath,... See more
Haley Nahman
"Parent or childfree" used to be my framework for understanding a dividing difference of adult life. But aging and, yes, friendship, have taught me that there are so many experiences that binary doesn't capture: To want kids but not be able to have them, for physical or financial or logistical reasons. To not want kids but accidentally get pregnant... See more
from Ann Friedman
From Sheila Heti, Motherhood:
“Only in the pursuit of failure can a person really be free”
“I don’t know why I don’t do the obvious thing — instead of fantasising about other lives, why not try to imagine what it’s like to be me, and live the life I’m living now”
“Happily we run away from even the brightest and best things in our lives, because we are
... See moreThe most important rewards of being a parent come from the moment-by-moment physical and psychological joy of being with this particular child, and in that child’s moment-by-moment joy in being with you.