Motherhood
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Motherhood
From Sheila Heti, Motherhood:
“Only in the pursuit of failure can a person really be free”
“I don’t know why I don’t do the obvious thing — instead of fantasising about other lives, why not try to imagine what it’s like to be me, and live the life I’m living now”
“Happily we run away from even the brightest and best things in our lives, because we are
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My boyfriend and I had just hired a nanny to spend three days a week caring for our baby, to do a kind of work that I’d been shocked to find intimately rewarding but also far harder than anything I’d ever tried to do for eight hours straight. We could afford to do this because a person can get paid more to sit in front of her computer and send a... See more
Jia Tolentino • Can Motherhood Be a Mode of Rebellion?
It’s my son’s first birthday so in true millennial fashion I’m going to talk about me:
Katherine Boyletwitter.comIt is hard a lot of the time and easy a lot of the time. Is this making any sense? It doesn’t make any sense to me either. And that’s the total mind-melting, incomprehensible, frustratingly indescribable, and also wonderful thing about infants. Time with them has no goal and operates in a strange nonlinear fashion, and you are doing so much but... See more
Rachel Katz • Magic 8 Ball Mind
what it feels like to care for an infant
Wow, what a beautiful framing. Some people feel called to build families, others feel called to build ideas. They're not mutually exclusive, of course, but they're both ways to spread parts of ourselves:
"My religious cousin, who is the same age as I am, she has six kids. And I have six books. Maybe there is no great... See more
When children fall or fail it’s not to dad that they run, but to mom, and there’s nothing wrong with that. We’ve just been through three years of pain and loss; it is not our spiritual fathers that we need right now, it is our mamas.
Robin Black • Why Beth Moore Is The Leader We Need Right Now
"Parent or childfree" used to be my framework for understanding a dividing difference of adult life. But aging and, yes, friendship, have taught me that there are so many experiences that binary doesn't capture: To want kids but not be able to have them, for physical or financial or logistical reasons. To not want kids but accidentally get pregnant... See more
from Ann Friedman