Motherhood
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Motherhood
A job is predicated on agreement. (“I will take X dollars for Y hours of work, as long as the arrangement works for me.”) But there are all sorts of other labors that are predicated on duty . Duty to help others, duty to be true to ourselves. (“I’m doing this because it is necessary for me to do it, regardless of whether it works for me or not.”)... See more
Ali Montag • Issue No. 7: The Job
a job vs a duty
From Sheila Heti, Motherhood:
“Only in the pursuit of failure can a person really be free”
“I don’t know why I don’t do the obvious thing — instead of fantasising about other lives, why not try to imagine what it’s like to be me, and live the life I’m living now”
“Happily we run away from even the brightest and best things in our lives, because we are
... See moreParenthood likewise forces an encounter with the illogic of the market: good fortune means getting to pay someone less than you make to do a job that’s harder and probably more important than your own.
Jia Tolentino • Can Motherhood Be a Mode of Rebellion?
In this anxious inheritance from my mother and my grandmother, I ’ve both under- and overcorrected. Most of what I provide to my kids is nurturance, care and a soft lap before bed. I have excellent paid help to address many of their practical needs. I indulge them a lot. They participate in zero extracurriculars and do not have great table manners.... See more
Elise Loehnen • Opinion | The Lies Mothers Tell Themselves and Their Children
When children fall or fail it’s not to dad that they run, but to mom, and there’s nothing wrong with that. We’ve just been through three years of pain and loss; it is not our spiritual fathers that we need right now, it is our mamas.
Robin Black • Why Beth Moore Is The Leader We Need Right Now
My life as a parent seems to come at the storytelling problem differently. The experience crowds out the narration, rather than the other way around. What is there to say about omnipresence? There’s a tactility to parenting (feeding, cleaning, dressing, hugging, rocking, kissing), a primitive quality (love, protection, devotion), that resists... See more
via Hayley Nahman
Mothers have martyred themselves in their children’s names since the beginning of time. We have lived as if she who disappears the most, loves the most. We have been conditioned to prove our love by slowly ceasing to exist... What a terrible burden for children to bear—to know that they are the reason their mother stopped living. What a terrible... See more
Glennon Doyle • Untamed by Glennon Doyle
Being told to "enjoy every minute," while undertaking such psychologically and physically demanding work, is a peculiar type of societal gaslighting.