Mental Models
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Mental Models
Emotional inertia (in relationships & life)
What it is (one line):
Yesterday’s emotional state predicts today’s—affect and its behaviors resist change.
Relation to abusive relationships:
Chronic fear/shame states carry into each day; you anticipate harm and behave small, confirming the cycle.
When does it happen?
Under stress, poor sleep, low novelty;
I wish I had discovered this when stuck in my marriage. I don’t know if I could have acted on it at the time but it may have shortened the climb (still climbing) out. Woof.
May 23, 2024
- I know what makes people grow more reliably than anything else. It is: taking on a difficult project with some amount of public accountability. This can be large or small: a lecture series, a business, a blog, a house, a child, etc.
- It’s strange, but I know that it’s common to resist positive emotions, as well as negative ones. Ask
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
Solid insights.
Who benefits from me believing this information is true?
A great critical thinking maxim, in this case quoted from Strong Ground by Brené Brown.
Your habits create your mood, and your mood is a filter through which you experience your life.
brianna wiest • 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
Complexity increases because adding is easy and removing is dangerous.
Whenever there's a problem, we add: a new person, requirement, or process. We never subtract.
Why?
Because everything that already exists has a champion. That clause in the tax code, that step in the process, that feature in the product ... someone fought for it, and they'll fight... See more
Whenever there's a problem, we add: a new person, requirement, or process. We never subtract.
Why?
Because everything that already exists has a champion. That clause in the tax code, that step in the process, that feature in the product ... someone fought for it, and they'll fight... See more
ha feels like my entire life
I need to create crisis in my life because I am actually afraid of living it.
The pattern of unnecessarily creating crises in my life is an avoidance technique. It distracts me from actually having to be vulnerable, or accountable for all the things I am afraid of.
I am never upset for the reason I think I am. At the core of my desire to create... See more
The pattern of unnecessarily creating crises in my life is an avoidance technique. It distracts me from actually having to be vulnerable, or accountable for all the things I am afraid of.
I am never upset for the reason I think I am. At the core of my desire to create... See more
Moods are created by habitually. It’s not a singular event that throws us off - it’s the pattern of continually experiencing a thought that compounds its effect and makes it feel valid.
Guilty
Here is a process that a shaman lady I know has for reckoning with suppressed anger. Interestingly I find this much more effective than the "hit things while screaming route" which actually now seems like a way to AVOID fully feeling one's rage https://t.co/28XAUD0uA2
Interesting.
