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Which is to say, our sense of self is a collaborative fiction, drafted in the space between your gaze and my interpretation of it, and love has a way of making that fiction more generous, more daring, more alive. Each act of seeing draws up another hidden self from the depths
Emotional heat loosens the architecture of the self, and in the presence of someone who sees you vividly, the molten structure reforms around their image of you. What remains afterwards is stronger, different, marked by the shape of their attention.
Henrik Karlsson captures the mechanism simply: relationships are co-evolutionary loops. Beyond sociology, it feels like spiritual physics. Who we choose to orbit defines, over time, the texture and colour palette of our becoming. Love becomes a technology of transformation, a living interface between selves. To love well is to take part in someone... See more
To love someone is to not have any faith in them. It is to be overly suspicious and doubtful, maybe because we’re doubtful of ourselves. And so, by extension, in a twisted turn of events — we have faith in those that we do not love. We have faith in the person that they are, the person they are becoming, because we do not clutch to our chests their
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