Life Advice
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Life Advice
When you ask people for help, most people give you advice. Advice is when someone tells you what they would do. And since you’re not that person, it’s rarely useful to hear what they would do. You want to know what you should do.
Counsel, on the other hand, is when someone helps you figure out what you think. Counsel is invaluable because it helps y... See more
Counsel, on the other hand, is when someone helps you figure out what you think. Counsel is invaluable because it helps y... See more
“I hope you live without the need to dominate, and without the need to be dominated. I hope you are never victims, but I hope you have no power over other people. And when you fail, and are defeated, and in pain, and in the dark, then I hope you will remember that darkness is your country, where you live, where no wars are fought and no wars are wo... See more
Ursula LeGuin (1983)
The more grownup I get, the more I wonder about giving advice. I do best when listening to youngsters tell me truths about the world we’ve made for them. It feels sometimes like we all have to talk all the time, in ways at once aphoristic and immediate, so lately I try to be at least as often on receive as on transmit.
Figuring out what you want is the central task of adulthood, and it’s not an easy one.
Once you leave formal schooling, you’re catapulted into a world with infinite possibilities. You no longer have to show up at school to avoid detention or ace tests to make your parents proud. You’re finally unshackled from the training wheels of life, and now you... See more
Once you leave formal schooling, you’re catapulted into a world with infinite possibilities. You no longer have to show up at school to avoid detention or ace tests to make your parents proud. You’re finally unshackled from the training wheels of life, and now you... See more
