Life Advice
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Life Advice
Perhaps the best career advice I’ve heard is to lower the stakes. When we loosen our grip on the “right” path to pursue, we open ourselves to what the universe has to offer.
Simone Stolzoff • How to Find Clarity When You’re at a Career Crossroads
Human life is not a competition in which everyone places somewhere between one to eight billion. That’s because each person has different capacities, aims, relationships, projects and identities. These are all relevant to deciding what a good life is for them.
- NYT magazine, The Ethicist, Kwame Anthony Appiah
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Additional new bits of advice I wished I had known earlier (not in my book), as my gift on my 73 birthday:
• The best way to criticize something is to make something better.
• Admitting that “I don’t know” at least once a day will make you a better... See more
Kevin Kellyx.comSeek real feedback
It’s hard to overstate how overpowered this one is. If you aren’t trying to get real feedback from people who know you, you’re cooking without tasting. This is, like, the lowest hanging fruit for self-improvement, but few people really try to pick it.
In many contexts, the way to get good feedback is to give people a way to... See more
It’s hard to overstate how overpowered this one is. If you aren’t trying to get real feedback from people who know you, you’re cooking without tasting. This is, like, the lowest hanging fruit for self-improvement, but few people really try to pick it.
In many contexts, the way to get good feedback is to give people a way to... See more
Cate Hall • How to Be More Agentic
The more grownup I get, the more I wonder about giving advice. I do best when listening to youngsters tell me truths about the world we’ve made for them. It feels sometimes like we all have to talk all the time, in ways at once aphoristic and immediate, so lately I try to be at least as often on receive as on transmit.
The only thing I should feel is compassion because that’s the only thing I wish for people to feel for me. So I will do my best to give grace to everyone. But often the hardest thing is to give that grace to ourselves.
Yancy Strickler