Life Advice
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Life Advice
My yoga teacher always starts class with this line:
"Congrats. The hardest part is over. You showed up."
I feel like that mindset applies to most other things.
I’m not great at advice—I share Oscar Wilde’s opinion about it, for the most part—but with that caveat I’d say this: don’t be afraid of seeking. Don’t be afraid of your own depth. Don’t dumb yourself down to be less threatening to others. Don’t let the shallow present monoculture shame you into vacuousness.
Ray Nayler • Ray Nayler: Don't Be Afraid of Your Own Depth
You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” ~ Zig Ziglar.
The more grownup I get, the more I wonder about giving advice. I do best when listening to youngsters tell me truths about the world we’ve made for them. It feels sometimes like we all have to talk all the time, in ways at once aphoristic and immediate, so lately I try to be at least as often on receive as on transmit.
The only thing I should feel is compassion because that’s the only thing I wish for people to feel for me. So I will do my best to give grace to everyone. But often the hardest thing is to give that grace to ourselves.
Yancy Strickler