Life Advice
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Life Advice
People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is a cold comfort on a winter night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when you've gotten back the test results and they're not so good.
Here is my resume: I am a good mother to three children. I have tried never
... See moreAnna Quindlen • Anna Quindlen's Commencement Address at Villanova
one of the most liberating things was realizing that I'm allowed to relate to the world in any way I want
my reasons and my approach don't need to make (cultural) sense or be explicit to be effective
I can set my own goals and standards for success
ꙮ sadalsvvd.space ꙮx.comGeneric, uncontextualized advice is a menace- by definition it attracts the lost and the confused and only makes them more lost and more confused. Even the seemingly most universal, failsafe advice of the ‘work hard’, ‘try your best’, and ‘believe in yourself’ ilk, can be disastrous for certain people. It can merely act as a motivator and energy... See more
Thomas Bevan • On The Futility of Offering Advice
The more grownup I get, the more I wonder about giving advice. I do best when listening to youngsters tell me truths about the world we’ve made for them. It feels sometimes like we all have to talk all the time, in ways at once aphoristic and immediate, so lately I try to be at least as often on receive as on transmit.
“Basically, when you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you. I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. If you get to my age in... See more
Collab Fund • Smart Things I’ve Read Lately
“Humans don’t mind hardship, in fact they thrive on it; what they mind is not feeling necessary. Modern society has perfected the art of making people not feel necessary. It's time for that to end.”
Sebastian Junger • Tribe — Sebastian Junger
Anna Wintour’s biography turned into maxims:
1. Hire talented people as found, not as needed.
2. Taste is as rare as a unicorn.
3.Your employees should describe you as “easy to understand.”
4.Pretend to be completely in control and people will assume that you are.
5.Have a sharp eye for the weaknesses of others.
6.Combine ruthless efficiency with... See more
1. Hire talented people as found, not as needed.
2. Taste is as rare as a unicorn.
3.Your employees should describe you as “easy to understand.”
4.Pretend to be completely in control and people will assume that you are.
5.Have a sharp eye for the weaknesses of others.
6.Combine ruthless efficiency with... See more