Life Advice
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Life Advice
The more grownup I get, the more I wonder about giving advice. I do best when listening to youngsters tell me truths about the world we’ve made for them. It feels sometimes like we all have to talk all the time, in ways at once aphoristic and immediate, so lately I try to be at least as often on receive as on transmit.
The only thing I should feel is compassion because that’s the only thing I wish for people to feel for me. So I will do my best to give grace to everyone. But often the hardest thing is to give that grace to ourselves.
Yancy Strickler
And I came to believe that heroism is neither being perfect, nor doing something spectacular. In fact, it’s just the opposite: it’s regular, flawed human beings choosing to put others before themselves, even at great cost, even if no one will ever know, even as they realize the walls might be closing in around them.
People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is a cold comfort on a winter night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when you've gotten back the test results and they're not so good.
Here is my resume: I am a good mother to three children. I have tried never
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