Life Advice
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Life Advice
Seek real feedback
It’s hard to overstate how overpowered this one is. If you aren’t trying to get real feedback from people who know you, you’re cooking without tasting. This is, like, the lowest hanging fruit for self-improvement, but few people really try to pick it.
In many contexts, the way to get good feedback is to give people a way to... See more
It’s hard to overstate how overpowered this one is. If you aren’t trying to get real feedback from people who know you, you’re cooking without tasting. This is, like, the lowest hanging fruit for self-improvement, but few people really try to pick it.
In many contexts, the way to get good feedback is to give people a way to... See more
Cate Hall • How to Be More Agentic
The more grownup I get, the more I wonder about giving advice. I do best when listening to youngsters tell me truths about the world we’ve made for them. It feels sometimes like we all have to talk all the time, in ways at once aphoristic and immediate, so lately I try to be at least as often on receive as on transmit.
21 best ideas in Ralph Waldo Emerson’s essay on Self Reliance (via justin murphy)
Most people do not trust their own beliefs. The essence of genius is simply to trust yourself—to infer that whatever seems most true in your heart is most true in reality—and for everybody else, too, despite whatever they may claim.
There is hardly anything more painful
The only thing I should feel is compassion because that’s the only thing I wish for people to feel for me. So I will do my best to give grace to everyone. But often the hardest thing is to give that grace to ourselves.
Yancy Strickler
"Productivity is most important for things you don't want to be doing. Most people want to increase productivity so they can spend less time on the task.
But before you worry about being more productive, think about being more selective. Rather than focusing on increasing productivity, it may be worth asking, "What would I be delighted to spend... See more
But before you worry about being more productive, think about being more selective. Rather than focusing on increasing productivity, it may be worth asking, "What would I be delighted to spend... See more
3-2-1: The excuses we live by, how to handle your mistakes, and when productivity doesn't matter
When you ask people for help, most people give you advice. Advice is when someone tells you what they would do. And since you’re not that person, it’s rarely useful to hear what they would do. You want to know what you should do.
Counsel, on the other hand, is when someone helps you figure out what you think. Counsel is invaluable because it helps... See more
Counsel, on the other hand, is when someone helps you figure out what you think. Counsel is invaluable because it helps... See more