📚 on how to friendship

Maybe I just want a group of people who say “yes” to being in each other’s lives with intention.

Not just when it’s easy.

Not just when it’s convenient.

But all the way through.

I want to be on the hook for you.

I guess that’s what I’m saying.

bad at keeping secrets

Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you.

Saint Augustine

I have a few friends that I refer to as world expanders. It’s a concept I’ve been talking about a lot lately as I keep collecting more of them, more people who make life bigger and more exciting. This is the type of person that makes you want to go out and do. I think there’s an equally important type of friend to have though, and that’s the world

Do you like being discussed? I do. And it’s rare at our age. Yet how do we exist, save on the lips of our friends? So last night, between 6 and 7 you were absolutely incandescent.

Virginia Woolf
Letter to Molly MacCarthy
11th June 1939

The thing about being: a daughter, a mother, a sister, a friend, a girl, a woman — all of it, is that we each come with a unique set of matches, functional only to the experience of another woman. And in some ways, I think we have to light each other on fire to learn how to actually use our matches, to learn that we can also light each other up.

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