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Boundaries are not saying no.
Or making sure something doesn't happen.
Or distancing.
Or even letting yourself have wants in the face of others'.
A boundary is simply "If you do X, I will do Y."
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not my business to tell other people how to live their lives
but if you're curious: I feel like lots of people mis-distribute their seriousness
too serious about things you don't have to be serious about
not at all serious about things you *ought* to be serious... See more
if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.
A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.”
Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations.
Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.