Identity & Queerness

Queer love is steady and infinite, even on the most unstable ground. It’s the light that seeps through the cracks in all of my insecurities and fears, spreading in a glittery feedback loop of joy. We embrace each other unconditionally exactly because we see how conditional heterosexual societies’ love and acceptance is. We climb out of all the dirt... See more

And yet, through it all, transition is also the most gratifying thing I have ever done. It is powerful to reclaim your agency despite everything telling you to stay put. I am happier in my body than I have ever been. I feel inside of myself for the first time. I never used to get excited to get dressed in the morning. Now, my wardrobe is an... See more

Just being ourselves becomes a guise, behind which we fashion ourselves to be – in the worldly scale of values – someone who counts.

Useful personal traits are cultivated in interaction with the appropriation of unusual or unusually combined objects, experiences, styles and identities – a rare breed of dog, special cooking techniques, the obscure knowledge of sneaker brands, an offbeat musical style, a novel sexual orientation, and so on. Together, they’re put to work as the... See more

Performative authenticity is tied to economic success and social prestige, which means – and this is a further paradoxical feature – that your specialness and self-realisation have to be performed. In order for people to distinguish themselves, they must seek attention and visibility, and positively affect others with their self-representations,... See more