How To Enjoy The Process

To quote the always-brilliant Philip Kiely: “First you do X, then you make content about doing X, then you make content about that content… One day you realize you haven’t done X for six months. And there is only so much room for content at the highest levels of abstraction.”

I think that one of the things, again, my son has been such a blessing to me over the past couple of years because I think that is an example of I almost missed him. I was so focused on solving him and preparing the path for him with his ADHD and his challenges there that I was exerting my efficacy on his life, and I almost didn’t know him. And... See more

“Why didn’t they simply do the perfect thing on the first attempt?”

The short answer is: that’s not how this works. Things are not linear or clean. We can only asymptote towards perfection through trial and error.

I’ve found myself wanting to get out of the liminal place I’ve been floating in — wanting it to be done already, wanting to arrive in clarity, wanting to feel more certain or sure about what I’m supposed to be doing and how I should be doing it. Part of me feels like this pressure to “get there” comes from the false belief that there is anywhere... See more

The best way to control your emotional capital is to fine tune your internal monologue and replace your hunger for approval with a desire to grow.

HOW TO LEARN ANYTHING*1. Deconstruct the skill: - decide exactly what you want to be able to do when you're done, and then look into the skill and break it down into smaller pieces. 2. Learn enough to self correct: - learn just enough that you can actually practice and self correct or self edit as you practice. 3. Remove barriers to practice: -... See more