Health - Mental
Maintenance and healing
Health - Mental
What is trauma?
Trauma isn't the event itself, but rather what occurs within you because of the event. Think of a physical injury: the cut is the event, the scar is the trauma. It's the lasting impact, the fear, the emotional memory lodged in your body.
Trauma creates fear, loneliness, helplessness, and disconnects you from your true being. It leads
... See more“Insight is the booby prize of therapy” is my favorite maxim of the trade, meaning that you can have all the insight in the world, but if you don’t change when you’re out in the world, the insight—and the therapy—is worthless. Insight allows you to ask yourself, Is this something that’s being done to me or am I doing it to myself? The answer gives
... See moreLori Gottlieb • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
Since her early wound involved ignoring her sensations and emotions — especially those of the needy child — her healing requires accepting, loving, and valuing all of those parts. And eventually, it includes uncovering and grieving her early heartbreak at not being valued or seen. Her healing has to be physically embodied: it must be a felt sense
... See moreSteven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
A few years ago I heard Jerome Kagan, a distinguished emeritus professor of child psychology at Harvard, say to the Dalai Lama that for every act of cruelty in this world there are hundreds of small acts of kindness and connection. His conclusion: “To be benevolent rather than malevolent is probably a true feature of our species.” Being able to
... See moreBessel van der Kolk • The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma
So, our crushes often exist to tell us what we are looking for within ourselves. They tell us where our ambition is pointing. And that's quite useful. Because if you don't think you know what you want, or where you want to go, or what you want to do, or what you want to be more of, just look at your crushes:
What do they all have in common that... See more
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