happiness

big secret to happiness is just liking stuff. finding more stuff to like. finding ways to like stuff you didn’t before. recognizing what it feels like to like something and doubling down on that. what feels frivolous is actually the whole ballgame

This quote from Tony Hsieh contains so much truth: “Happiness is really just about four things: perceived control, perceived progress, connectedness (number and depth of your relationships), and vision/meaning (being part of something bigger than yourself).”

Sometimes the key to happiness isn’t finding the next upgrade, but appreciating what’s already in front of you. We’re prone to undervaluing what we have and overvaluing what we don’t have yet covet. Sometimes the grass is greener where you water it.

It’s crazy to me that every optimist talks about “going to the stars” as the A+ perfect future scenario The universe supports qualia, experience, the only natural resource that inherently matters. We can shape that resource how we wish. What matters is what it’s like to be alive

if you can’t find joy in a cup of coffee, you won’t find it in a yacht. gratitude treats all things the same.

i increasingly think there’s intense cruelty to shilling self-care as the solution for ppl who are clearly craving purpose

How to fix everything in your life:

We chase what's sexy and miss what matters - Excitement starts something. Execution completes it. - Speed makes a good story. Velocity makes a difference. - Complexity makes you sound smart. Focusing on the basics shows you are. - New commands attention. Old offers insight.

Things you control: Your effort. Your beliefs. Your identity. Your actions. Your attitude. Your integrity. Your thoughts. The food you eat. How kind you are. The media you read. How reflective you are. How thoughtful you are. The people you listen to. The type of friend you are.

This visual trick from @hubermanlab has changed my life in the simplest and subtlest way: