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As poet Brandon Wint wrote in a much-quoted social media post several years ago, “Not queer like gay; queer like escaping definition. Queer like some sort of fluidity and limitlessness all at once. Queer like a freedom too strange to be conquered. Queer like the fearlessness to imagine what love can look like, and to pursue it.”

Mia Birdsong • How We Show Up: Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community

queer not as in being about who you’re having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but queer as in being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live

— bell hooks

sometimes the most important thing we can do is let ourselves stay blurry. to be unbranded, unpositioned, undone for a while. because real self-knowledge is a slow, unmarketable process. and the lost feeling might just be the first sign that you’ve finally stopped performing someone else’s idea of a good life.

milk and cookies • why feeling lost might mean you’re finally doing it right

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