friendship
I learned, very gradually, that a friend’s job in these circumstances is not to cheer the person up. It’s to acknowledge the reality of the situation; it’s to hear, respect, and love them; it’s to show them you haven’t given up on them, you haven’t walked away.
David Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
Reverend starets, forgive that last bit about Diderot’s baptism, I made it up myself just now, even as I was telling it to you, it had never entered my head before. I made it up just to please you. I carry on like that, Pyotr Aleksandrovich, so that people’ll like me all the more. But then sometimes I don’t know myself why I do it.
Fyodor Dostoevsky • The Karamazov Brothers (Oxford World's Classics)
“Mostly you have to look after people like you do children, and some you have to look after like patients in hospital”…’
Fyodor Dostoevsky • The Karamazov Brothers (Oxford World's Classics)
For instance, when reading a book, if one brings one’s face too close to it, one cannot see anything. In the same way, forming good interpersonal relationships requires a certain degree of distance. When the distance gets too small and people become stuck together, it becomes impossible to even speak to each other. But the distance must not be too... See more
Notes & Highlights for The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi
“Here lies one who knew how to get around him men who were cleverer than himself.”
Dale Carnegie • How To Win Friends and Influence People
The moment anybody comes close to me, his personality begins to overpower my self-esteem and intrude upon my freedom. Within one day I can end up hating the very best of men, some because they take too long over their dinner, others because they’ve caught a cold and keep blowing their noses. I become a misanthrope, he said, the minute I come into
... See moreFyodor Dostoevsky • The Karamazov Brothers (Oxford World's Classics)
Her temperament was distinctly familial to me. She could be me, if I could unzip my skin and release all my fury. If Erin brought out the intellect in me (and my petty envy), Helen brought out what was raw in me.
Cathy Park Hong • Minor Feelings: An Asian American Reckoning
How the dog knows why it’s kicked, declawed by what it calls friend.