friendship & community

my sense is that people who take a long time to respond to messages, or tend to go into shame spirals about them, often put a lot of pressure on themselves to respond in a specific way

u're not lonely bc u lack community, u're lonely bc u're not willing to work to maintain community community isn't an ambient vibe u passively absorb - it's the accumulated weight of showing up&caring for others, even when not totally feelin it ppl keep reversing the causality