friendship & community

a friend asked me for advice about approaching having coffee dates / initial meetings with new people U are curious about here's what I said, sharing in case it's helpful to more people!: - helpful, not required to do research, know things about them in advance (but don't be

The other day I was struck by just how great my friends are, and how having a great group of friends is definitely one of the biggest assets you can have in your life. Twelve years ago, nine friends and I bought an island together. It was an inexpensive island, under $100k, but https://t.co/20ubYyJ3Lf

my sense is that people who take a long time to respond to messages, or tend to go into shame spirals about them, often put a lot of pressure on themselves to respond in a specific way

u're not lonely bc u lack community, u're lonely bc u're not willing to work to maintain community community isn't an ambient vibe u passively absorb - it's the accumulated weight of showing up&caring for others, even when not totally feelin it ppl keep reversing the causality