Many of us have motivated our children with fear, guilt and shame. “I would’ve thought better of you,” or “if you want something to be scared of I’ll give you something to be scared of.” And you know, as a parent you pause and you say, does it work? Well yeah, sure, especially depending on your kids’ personality and temperament, it’s going to work... See more
A question I often get asked is how I raised my 2 daughters. People who meet them are always impressed and want to know our techniques.
Answer: My wife and I never dealt punishment.
And if we ever shamed them, we apologized immediately.
How we parented instead ↓
I’ve taken to accepting that I’m messing up all kinds of things, and mainly just try to have fun with my little friend. To the extent that I have a strategy, it’s basically:
Spend lots of (phone-free) time with her
Show her that the world is a fun and fascinating place
Encourage her to reason from first principles
Don’t interrupt her when she’s focused... See more
Social media was not created with the best interest of teenagers in mind. Instinctively, we know our kids shouldn’t invest time engaging with social media platforms because we, as adults, can see the dangers—the social comparison, constant judgments, and endless drama. Many of us are so thankful we didn’t have social media when we were their age... See more