Parenting and family stuff

My advice to fathers-to-be: work smart and hard leading up to birth, build as much momentum in your meditation practice as possible, strengthen your back muscles (never skip leg day), expect to get 3x less done after birth, take time to ground your nervous system daily, and remember your primary job in the early days is supporting the mother.

“The fact is, most of the freedom I had before kids, I never used. I paid for it in loneliness, but I never used it.I had plenty of happy times before I had kids. But if I count up happy moments, not just potential happiness but actual happy moments, there are more after kids than before. Now I practically have it on tap, almost any bedtime.”

“We have overprotected our kids in the real world and under-protected them online.” – Jonathan Haidt

The only thing I should feel is compassion because that’s the only thing I wish for people to feel for me. So I will do my best to give grace to everyone. But often the hardest thing is to give that grace to ourselves.