Parenting and family stuff
good stuff from around the internet on raising good kids, building a family, etc.
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Parenting and family stuff
Punishment and appeasement are both short-term, reactive solutions as opposed to long-term, proactive solutions. Regardless of whether the parent or teacher chooses punishment or appeasement, the child misses countless opportunities to build competency in crucial life skills such as self-discipline, self-control, and conflict-resolution.
Samantha Joy • Discipline as Encouragement
If you’ve read my letters to my son, Myles, you know I am madly in love with him, and I love sharing with the world this love I did not get to experience myself. He’s given me a new sense of purpose. (I hate disclaimers, but I feel like I had to set this up for what I’m about to say.)
At the same time, I struggle with how much my marriage changed so... See more
At the same time, I struggle with how much my marriage changed so... See more
Caroline Cala Donofrio • "No One Really Prepares You for the Kind of Math When 1+1=3 "
what a beautiful way to wrestle with the complexities of parenthood
“Having parented successfully in the past may rank as a satisfying accomplishment retrospectively; but the bulk of research finds that being a parent, while it is happening, does not increase life satisfaction and may reduce it.”
Jonathan Rauch • The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50
fwiw I'm now quite enjoying having a baby, thanks to some mix of:
- baby is older and more active (almost crawling)
- attitude shifts on my part (nothing fancy, just getting more curious about skill-development - baby's and mine)
- getting 👇 off my chest helped me reorient
Malcolm Ocean x.comthread plus embedded thread
I once read in a parenting book that one way to deal with kids’ tantrums is to “parent with awe.” In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Michaeleen Doucleff observes the way some Inuit mothers are able to calm children by encouraging them to turn their attention toward beautiful, worldly things.