events IRL
i sent this screenshot from a steve jobs email to a friend & we ended up talking about how so many people plan so aggressively now that they leave no space for natural chaos.
you ask someone when they’re free & they hit you with “september 15th.” months out. especially in nyc, this is just…normal.
one of the most fascinating parts of modern life ... See more
“You can’t plan to meet the people who will change your life”
An example of how Nick Gray brings delight to gatherings (Nick is the author of the 2 hour cocktail party):
One event I recently went to that was hosted by Nick himself had this amazing moment: he was sharing his favorite TikToks on a TV at the front of the room w/ about 30 people.
One TikTok came up w/ a viola player, but it froze & we couldn’t
... See moreCommunity building 101:
- Make it a cause worth fighting for
- Commit daily for best chances
- Members should feel a sense of validation every time they show up
- Curate founding members
- Begin by growing organically
- Facilitate bonds between members
nametwitter.com- 1) plausible deniability: if you say we're here to make friends, friendship doesn't happen. if you say we're here to research or talk about niche topic x and y, friendships always form. same applies to dating.
- 2) communities are built from strong 1-1 relationships. as an e
Patricia Mou • 40 pieces of "advice"
- You need shared contexts and shared interests. The reason why it’s difficult to make friends as an adult is because where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces), there's a lack of shared interests. Where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc), there's a lack of shared context. A place
Patricia Mou • Introducing "The Fourth Place" & Why "Third Places" Have Fallen Short on Their Promise
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