eros & desire

It’s crazy to me that our cultural desiderata for a marriage so wildly diverges from the realities of what I see Ppl are looking to fall madly in love and then “keep the flame alive” for a lifetime. But if “keeping the flame alive” means staying madly in love & having regular amazing sex, well…maybe only 1 out of 1000... See more

can’t stop thinking about how we get drained if we haven’t charged up on visual imagery in a while - it’s like our inner nature archetypes, which are reused for many cognitive tasks, degrade over time unless we keep syncing them w the real thing

“what is a woman’s erotic capital?” it’s her FEMININE RADIANCE -how good she feels to be around -the warmth of her heart -the depth of her love -her ability to hold you in her gaze & destroy & be tender w you all at... See more

there is a depth of love that is available to a woman when she can truly claim “I don't need anything about this moment to be different. I can hold your pain, and I can hold my own. this is important”

experiencing this firsthand rn and it's very fucking cool

unpopular opinion: if you, as a woman, feel used by a guy, it’s a sign that you are using him too because he is your mirror if he wasn’t, his behaviour wouldn’t touch you there would be no negative charge. you would be able to walk... See more

recommend me a book (or sth) that forever changed your view of sex, eroticism, & desire my preferences are in the direction of spirituality & energy, but I'll take whatever you got

By the way, the Types of Love writing is up now: https://t.co/vBw3gViVwd