emotional intelligence

Blaming and complaining are mixtures of genuine grief and defensive anger.

How to be more emotionally intelligent (without trying so hard) 🧵 for @threadapalooza

A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.” Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations. Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.

There is a skill of how to access information from your emotions. Most people don’t know how. They literally cannot read their feelings, in the same way that illiterates cannot read words. Intellectuals are often illiterate *plus* deny it’s possible to learn to... See more