emotional intelligence

You’re allowed to figure out what emotions you’re feeling in broadly the same way you would with anyone else, which is by paying attention to what you’re actually doing. If you’re behaving in an angry way, maybe you’re actually angry.

the core skill of emotional literacy is paying attention to feelings in order to determine what emotions you are currently experiencing.

The short version is that you definitely have emotions…and not understanding them makes it very hard to understand your own behaviour.