emotional intelligence

There is an effective middle ground where anger can be leveraged to make positive change. When anger’s heat burns brightest is the time to make plans

the core skill of emotional literacy is paying attention to feelings in order to determine what emotions you are currently experiencing.

The most competent people I know are pretty good at basically anything they put their minds to, because they just design a process and run it. I think this is largely mental and emotional—the hardest part isn’t figuring out the steps, it’s enduring the psychological discomfort of doing them and then adapting.

When boys are showing care and concern and support for other people, celebrate it in the same way that you might celebrate more traditional things that are celebrated for boys, like sports victories or catching a big fish. You want to celebrate when they care for friends or family, too