You don’t know what your partner wants & you’re trying ‘everything’ yet they’re locked inside themselves & acting weird?
Hint: their Mind-Body desires something they can’t allow themselves to communicate… 🫣🥵😰😶🌫️
Why?
It feels too scary, disrespectful, or threatening to the status quo.
They don’t know how you’ll react; they don’t want to b... See more
stripping softening of its negative connotations can render it a profoundly healing undertaking, especially when that softening co-exists with steadfastness & firmness. eg: “fierce compassion”, a state of forcefulness & softness where one can be angered & caring at the same time
“what is a woman’s erotic capital?”
it’s her FEMININE RADIANCE
-how good she feels to be around
-the warmth of her heart
-the depth of her love
-her ability to hold you in her gaze & destroy & be tender w you all at once
and HOW DEEPLY SHE EMBODIES POWER & SELF-POSSESSION
there is a depth of love that is available to a woman when she can truly claim
“I don't need anything about this moment to be different. I can hold your pain, and I can hold my own. this is important”
unpopular opinion:
if you, as a woman, feel used by a guy, it’s a sign that you are using him too
because he is your mirror
if he wasn’t, his behaviour wouldn’t touch you
there would be no negative charge. you would be able to walk on by
@pragueyerrr absolutely. and what’s better than a man who takes care of a woman, or a woman who takes care of a man, is a relationship where both can switch off naturally between leader and follower for each other
If you’re falling out-of-love with your partner when you’re experiencing ‘rising in ‘love’’ with someone else…
Take a good look & ‘autistic-ly’ list & do healing work on:
~Hurts
~Un-communicated needs
~Lack of ‘connection actions’ (doing bonding stuff together)
~Why you numbed out to them. This may reveal a lot about yourself, too
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If anything I see myself as a consent-loving relationship anarchist.
(as opposed to the origin of relationship anarchy, which was rooted in a naive non-consensual revolutionary attitude)
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Boundaries are not saying no.
Or making sure something doesn't happen.
Or distancing.
Or even letting yourself have wants in the face of others'.
A boundary is simply "If you do X, I will do Y."
Good boundaries:
- don't require anything from the other person
- are kind for the other person
- bring you closer emotionally (i.e. you find the per... See more