Delivering Feedback
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Delivering Feedback
When delivering tough feedback, use this framework:
Start directly: “I want to chat with you about [specific issue]”
Share observations: “What I’m hearing/seeing is [specific examples]”
Connect to impact: “We both know that to be successful here...”
Focus on future: “Let’s discuss how we can improve this going forward”
If someone gets defensive during... See more
Start directly: “I want to chat with you about [specific issue]”
Share observations: “What I’m hearing/seeing is [specific examples]”
Connect to impact: “We both know that to be successful here...”
Focus on future: “Let’s discuss how we can improve this going forward”
If someone gets defensive during... See more
- #fyi — had a thought, no real hill to die on.
- #suggestion — there’s a hill, I’m not going to die on it. But this is what I would do if I were you.
- #recommendation — I’m climbing the hill, I won’t die on it. But I’ve thought about this a lot, and don’t ignore the feedback.
- #plea — I don’t like dying on hills and that’s not really what we do, but this
Lane Shackleton • Flashtags
an excellent framework/ritual for product leaders when delivering feedback, via Dharmesh Shah (hubspot CEO).
The most important ingredient for giving effective feedback is care for the other person.
Your intent must to be genuinely help the other person. You must see and validate them, and thus want what’s best for them. If you go into giving feedback with a kind of I mantra in your head—I want to sound smart, I want them to like me, I give them a piece of... See more
Your intent must to be genuinely help the other person. You must see and validate them, and thus want what’s best for them. If you go into giving feedback with a kind of I mantra in your head—I want to sound smart, I want them to like me, I give them a piece of... See more
Being nice is all about making the other person feel good. Being kind is about providing them with what they actually need. Nice is about feelings. Kindness is about concrete help. And if you want to do great work together, you should aim to be kind rather than nice.
Most people suck at giving feedback.
Here’s a framework for feedback that creates behavior change:
Wes Kaotwitter.com“Better to get your dopamine from improving your ideas than having them validated. “ – Nat Friedman