Conversations
The art and science of having effective, joyful conversations
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Conversations
Understanding Others' Emotions | Lisa Feldman Barrett
youtube.comA fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution?
Will 100% use this phrase going forward.
Novelist and writer Francine Prose on hard conversations:
"Sometimes being in a car, looking at the road, not having to make eye contact, is the ideal setting for heavy conversation."
Source: A Changed Man
Roughly match the tempo, volume, and style of others
One thing I’ve learned to do intuitively is match the tempo of someone I’m talking to—I can’t do it perfectly, but I try. If they’re quiet, meek, and deliberate, I refrain from overpowering them. If they’re fast and snappy and loud, I try to keep up. This is pretty crucial. If you stomp all over... See more
One thing I’ve learned to do intuitively is match the tempo of someone I’m talking to—I can’t do it perfectly, but I try. If they’re quiet, meek, and deliberate, I refrain from overpowering them. If they’re fast and snappy and loud, I try to keep up. This is pretty crucial. If you stomp all over... See more
from Sasha Chapin
A phrase I heard recently and found useful: I agree with the idea, but I disagree with the tone.
Many ideas get dismissed because they are delivered in a cocky or hostile or dismissive tone—or because of who delivers them.
Separate substance from style.
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“Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”
-Haruki Murakami
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TableTopics Family - 135 Conversation Starter Cards for Family Game Night, Family Mealtime, Building Parent-child Relationships, and Family Bonding, Bond Together with Table Topics Game
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