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I think we are moving away from the era of social media and into an era of online micro-communities. More intentional, less chaos. Smaller, but more valuable. More boundaries, more containment. We were never made to read the unhinged thoughts of hundreds of strangers each day, but we were made to gather around fires... See more

Laura Matsue Guenther substack.com

If someone seems boring to you, or a bad fit, it might be that you don’t know how to prompt them, that you haven’t seen them react to the context that brings out their full being. You probably don’t know how much beauty lies hidden in the people around you

The third and deepest kinds of friendship, according to Aristotle, are friendships of virtue. That is, you like a person because of their character. They might be fun, they might be useful, but even if they aren’t, you like them anyway. It is what the marriage vows are getting at with the line: “To have and to hold, from this day forward, for... See more

There are three types of friendship, Aristotle says. The first one is based on pleasure—the way our relationship in high school was all about laughing, or the way you can date someone because they are hot and make you feel good. The second is based on utility—you’re friends because it is useful, because your friend plays drums and you need a... See more