to communicate well
musings, examples, and insights on good communication
sari and
to communicate well
Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
Alexander Jamestwitter.com"i'm here with you" hits much harder than "i'm here for you"
-molly mielke
Alara and
There are five apology languages:
Expressing regret (“I feel ashamed for how I hurt you.”)
Accepting responsibility (“I was wrong for doing that to you.”)
Genuinely repent (“I can only imagine how much pain I caused, I am so sorry. I won’t do that again. Next time, I will do _____ differently.”)
Making restitution (“This is how I will make it up to you
The difference between internal processors (people who organize their thoughts and then speak) and external processors (people who speak in order to think) probably accounts for a lot more misunderstanding than we acknowledge.
via Jordan Castro
We often raise issues of justice and equity not to advance meaningful social causes but to generate positive attention for ourselves by denigrating others. Sometimes this involves piling on—joining a Greek chorus of reproachful replies without contributing anything new—or exaggerating one’s moral outrage for dramatic value. In doing so, we dilute the impact of critical ethical issues and foreclose the possibility of productive public discourse. The goal is not to understand but to win.