3/ One thing I do -- aside from Asking Questions as a Service, which on a good, charitable day is like collaborating with your own Columbo -- is Analogies as a Service.
Analogies often get discounted because they're not Real Work. I'm going to persuade you they are.
The right person isn't someone who can read your mind. Get rid of your unrealistic expectations. Learn to communicate better, with calm and maturity, not defiance and anger.