to communicate well
musings, examples, and insights on good communication
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to communicate well
Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
Alexander Jamestwitter.comThis sentence has saved me hundreds of hours:
“Happy to chat in this medium and we can schedule a meeting if it makes sense.”
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There are five apology languages:
Expressing regret ( “I feel ashamed for how I hurt you.”)
Accepting responsibility (“I was wrong for doing that to you.”)
Genuinely repent (“I can only imagine how much pain I caused, I am so sorry. I won’t do that again. Next time, I will do _____ differently.”)
Making restitution (“This is how I will make it up to you
Many communicators try to make themselves look smart. Great listeners are more interested in making their audiences feel smart. They help people approach their own views with more humility, doubt, and curiosity. When people have a chance to express themselves out loud, they often discover new thoughts. As the writer E. M. Forster put it, “How can I
... See moreVery few issues worthy of debate are black and white. That’s why we need to grapple with the gray areas of life, of which there are many. It’s always tempting to reduce issues to binary choices between right and wrong, good and evil, beneficial and destructive. But it’s ultimately self-defeating; binary thinking discourages complex reasoning while... See more
Yonason Goldson • Mastering the art of arguing productively
