Commodification of love
“It’s not singlehood, dear friend, that hurts; it’s not casual sex, the fluidity of our bonds, nor their ephemeral nature that causes pain.” Rather, it’s the way that power operates in relationships. Desire isn’t a spontaneous, apolitical passion; it’s shaped by the world around us, and by what we’ve been taught to value. Romance operates like a... See more
Hannah Giorgis • Why Does Romance Now Feel Like Work?
The negative side effects from this new way of living are too countless to list. We don’t have the patience for anything, let alone the slow unfolding of human emotion. Ask anyone on a dating app how that looks up close, how it plays out over time. Pundits lament that the global populace is enduring a plague of psychobabble that adds up to
... See moreHeather Havrilesky • The Rise of Emotional Divestment
Dysfunctional dating protocols have a profound ability to negatively impact the long-term progression of society. If you only care about interacting with others for short-term benefits you can extract from each other, you lose the potential for solving loneliness, building community, or accessing committed support systems. Society as a whole could... See more
Shreeda Segan • Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
There is a good deal of implicit sentiment around relationships that troubles me, because it assumes a fundamentally defensive posture: You have to be happy first, you should date around a lot, you should reject quickly and on small pretenses, you shouldn’t take dating too seriously, etc. For some even attachment is a dirty word! 1 All of this is... See more
Simon Sarris • quests, failure, desire
Gen Z demonizes everything. Having to put effort into maintaining or starting relationships is a burden. Practicing social skills is manipulation. Being passionately in love is codependency. The era of self, and a self-serving, McDonalds therapy mindset
♱ Father Figure ♱x.comThe girl who had sex with 100 guys in 24hr is the logical conclusion of our age's shift toward algorithmic, numbers-based value—what Kierkegaard called "levelling": A "silent and mathematical" process that destroys the embodied and specific individual, and replaces it with totalizing abstraction. The girl literally imagined having sex with... See more
Jordan Castrox.comLooking for love sounds more like chasing the high of an extreme sport, trust falling with someone you don’t really know like that. It demands exacting reciprocity, extreme vulnerability. It brings out people’s basest and most primal instincts and a frightening desire to merge into someone else. When the girlies on TikTok talk about dating, they... See more