Can you love a men and also fight the patriarchy

Ist es möglich, ist es möglich dass mein her sich getäuscht hat? Kann ich mir selbst nicht mehr trauen, wenn ich hugo und die liebe und andere Männer nicht so sehe, wie sie wirklich sind, sondern immer nur durch die Augen von träumen und meinem eigenen Idealismus?

Anais nin tagebuch

Patriarchal masculinity requires of boys and men not only that they see themselves as more powerful and superior to women but that they do whatever it takes to maintain their controlling position.

All about love, bell hooks

Many men confess that they lie because they can get away with it; their lies are forgiven. To understand why male lying is more accepted in our lives we have to understand the way in which power and privilege are accorded men simply because they are males within a patriarchal culture. The very concept of “being a man” and a “real man” has always

Males learn to lie as a way of obtaining power, and females not only do the same but they also lie to pretend powerlessness.

All about love, Bell hooks

There can be no love without justice. Until we live in a culture that not only respects but also upholds basic civil rights for children, most children will not know love.

Bell hooks

Sollte er nie wieder mit mir sprechen, würde ich mich mit dem bild von ihm zufriedengeben, dass ich mir von ihm geformt habe und zu dem ich sprechen kann wann ich will.

Anaïs nins tagebuch

we also know that rules alone will never be enough. We need to be willing to enter into an ongoing process that addresses these issues and supports change and healing and growth, each of us contributing what we can and expecting to continue indefinitely in the process of navigating consent and boundaries.

The ethical slut

Much of this conflict is the consequence of our absurd cultural insistence that in sex, men should be the initiators and women the withholders. Thus, some people learn that they are supposed to be pushy and others that saying anything but no is, well, slutty. This pattern leads to “no” being heard as an invitation to push harder, with predictably