betraying the self to conform
“Self-love encourages a self-acceptance without challenge or accountability, while self-respect demands integrity, discipline, and, most importantly, a steadfast alignment with one's values. If your worldview is one of higher purpose and one that acknowledges the reality that struggle is a condition of life,
'feeling good' is peripheral. What becomes central is dignity, self-confidence, resilience, and an ability to rely on yourself.”
"Because to influence a person is to give him one's own soul. He does not think his natural thoughts, or burn with his natural passions. His virtues are not real to him. His sins, if there are such things as sins, are borrowed. He becomes an echo of some one else's music, an actor of a part that has not been written for him. The aim of life is
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