Behavior Change

here is a technique I’ve used with success:

Step 1: identify the versions of yourself most responsible for bad behavior. Assign them names, describe the circumstances where and when they exist and write out their tendencies.

Step 2: list what decisions they are authorized to make, i.e. can they decide whether or not to consume alcohol past 5pm or has... See more

To ask, every day, "What matters, in the end?" is to create the possibility of differentiated choice, the potential to overthrow the tyranny of our history, so as to honour something in us that has always been there, waiting for our courage.

— James Hollis

There is a huge problem when it comes to "changing the system":When you go deep and help people reframe the paradigms, myths and worldviews at the core of a system, it's often too abstract and people ask for real-world examples of alternative worldviews. When you give people examples of alternative ways of doing things, they often ask for more rela... See more