Behavior Change

To ask, every day, "What matters, in the end?" is to create the possibility of differentiated choice, the potential to overthrow the tyranny of our history, so as to honour something in us that has always been there, waiting for our courage.

— James Hollis

If you keep hearing some vague descriptions about how much better some change in life is, but you don’t really “get it,” maybe that’s a sign it’s something you should explore rather than shy away from.

here is a technique I’ve used with success:

Step 1: identify the versions of yourself most responsible for bad behavior. Assign them names, describe the circumstances where and when they exist and write out their tendencies.

Step 2: list what decisions they are authorized to make, i.e. can they decide whether or not to consume alcohol past 5pm or has... See more

On the one hand, Octavia Butler has this to say:

“The only lasting truth is Change.”

On the other hand, Bill Bernbach would counter as such:

“A communicator must be concerned with unchanging man, with his obsessive drive to survive, to be admired, to succeed, to love, to take care of his own.”

And you know what, they’re both right!

When we think

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There is a huge problem when it comes to "changing the system":When you go deep and help people reframe the paradigms, myths and worldviews at the core of a system, it's often too abstract and people ask for real-world examples of alternative worldviews. When you give people examples of alternative ways of doing things, they often ask for more... See more