alchemy of heartbreak
Studies have found that the same areas in the brain that light up in imaging scans when we break a leg are activated when we split up with our mate. As part of a reaction to a breakup, our brain experiences the departure of an attachment figure in a similar way to that in which it registers physical pain.
Amir Levine • Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
Observation is the ability to perceive the self even as we are experiencing an event. It places us in a larger frame of reference and broadens our perspective moment to moment. Put another way, self-observation allows us to see the fuller context in which we are living.
Daniel J. Siegel • Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation
We can think of individuation in a sense perhaps closer to that intended by Jung, as the striving of the human organism toward wholeness, toward completion—an internal thrust toward self-realization or self-actualization reminiscent of Aristotle’s concept of entelechy. During the process of individuation, we become more and more completely that
... See moreNathaniel Branden • Honoring the Self: The Pyschology of Confidence and Respect
Individuation is the fullest possible development of our personal selves in living relationship to the unknowable foundation that carries us along. It is the lifelong process of growing into the person we were meant to be—of becoming whole. Just as every acorn contains the blueprint for an oak tree, our possibilities and personalities develop over
... See moreJoseph Lee LCSW • Dream Wise: Unlocking the Meaning of Your Dreams
These are three very practical ways to work with chaos: no struggle, poison as medicine, and regarding everything that arises as the manifestation of wisdom. First, we can train in letting the story lines go. Slow down enough to just be present, let go of the multitude of judgments and schemes, and stop struggling.
Second, we can use every day of... See more
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lionsroar.com • Three Methods for Working With Chaos – Lion's Roar
“The everyday practice is simply to develop complete acceptance and openness to all situations, emotions, and people.”
Pema Chödrön • The Wisdom of No Escape: And the Path of Loving Kindness
The instruction is to relate compassionately with where we find ourselves and to begin to see our predicament as workable. We are stuck in patterns of grasping and fixating which cause the same thoughts and reactions to occur again and again and again. In this way we project our world. When we see that, even if it’s only for one second every three
... See morePema Chödrön • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
When things fall apart and we’re on the verge of we know not what, the test for each of us is to stay on that brink and not concretize.
Pema Chödrön • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know…nothing ever really attacks us except our own confusion. perhaps there is no solid obstacle except our own need to protect ourselves from being touched. maybe the only enemy is that we don’t like the way reality is now and therefore wish it would go away fast. but what we find as... See more