Agency

biggest joke of my life… after years and years of trying so hard, i can just unclench the sense of doing anything and 1. my “willpower” increases dramatically 2. i get better at pretty much everything (this is not the same thing as non-coercion!)

there are 2 (main) ways to work with emotional bottlenecks*: 1. direct emotional processing –– deliberately feel the emotion you're avoiding 2. reality engaged processing i.e. processing emotion thru action –– create tiny, manageable encounters with the scary situation & let