biggest joke of my life… after years and years of trying so hard, i can just unclench the sense of doing anything and
1. my “willpower” increases dramatically
2. i get better at pretty much everything
(this is not the same thing as non-coercion!)
there are 2 (main) ways to work with emotional bottlenecks*:
1. direct emotional processing –– deliberately feel the emotion you're avoiding
2. reality engaged processing i.e. processing emotion thru action –– create tiny, manageable encounters with the scary situation & let