there's something transformative about achieving a third-person perspective on the contents of your mind by externalizing them on paper. You know how it's often easy to see what someone else needs to do about their problems? Externalising your thoughts can trigger similar insights on your own behalf. And even when it doesn't, the shift in perspecti... See more

If we set out to ask a question and rush to answer it, we haven't allowed the question to hang suspended over the void, We haven't listened.

Open-endedness creates the space for a response to come. Let's call this space a "pause." The pause is not only the secret of knowing yourself, it is the secret of all healing. Within the pause, the response fi... See more

I know that the people who will make you feel warm and fuzzy when you’re sad, and the people who will give you brutally honest feedback, are usually different people. Ideally you want to have relationships with both kinds, and reward them for their strengths, rather than getting mad at them for failing to do what they’re bad at.