Students who are independent, full of self-love, not susceptible to guilt and worry, are systematically labeled troublemakers.

So he covets approval, and learns that gaining the sanction of others is tantamount to being successful and happy.

Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth.

There is only one moment in which you can experience anything, and that is now, yet a great deal of time is thrown away by dwelling on past or future experiences. Turning your now into total fulfillment is the touchstone of effective living, and virtually all self-defeating behaviors (erroneous zones) are efforts at living in a moment other than

Learning to take total charge of yourself will involve a whole new thinking process, one which may prove difficult because too many forces in our society conspire against individual responsibility.

You can be motivated out of a desire to grow rather than a need to repair your deficiencies.

What is tough is unlearning all of the “shoulds” and “oughts” that you’ve digested in the past.

Your self is sacrificed to the opinions and predelictions of others.

Complaining about yourself is a useless activity, and one which keeps you from effectively living your life. It encourages self-pity and immobilizes you in your efforts at giving and receiving love. Moreover it reduces your opportunities for improved love relationships and increased social intercourse. While it may get you attention, the noticing