Complaining about yourself is a useless activity, and one which keeps you from effectively living your life. It encourages self-pity and immobilizes you in your efforts at giving and receiving love. Moreover it reduces your opportunities for improved love relationships and increased social intercourse. While it may get you attention, the noticing w

“Your view of me is more important than my own opinion of myself.”

Once you comprehend the why of your self-malice and the maintenance system for retaining it, you can begin to attack the behaviors. Without the understanding of self, the old actions will continue to recur.

The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.

“Is putting it off the way to live?”

Can you grow your own roots? (Chapter X)

So the issue is not whether you can take control of your feelings, but whether you will. What must you endure before you’ll make such a choice?

Once you can change your thoughts, your new feelings will begin to emerge, and you will have taken the first step on the road to your personal freedom.

Acceptance means no complaining, and happiness means no complaining about the things over which you can do nothing. Complaining is the refuge of those who have no self-reliance.