you are good enough as you are
For five years, I’ve ceased to experience with shame what can be experienced with pleasure and triumph (sexuality, jealousy, class differences). Shame spreads over everything, prevents any further progress.
Celine Nguyen • you are good enough as you are
Actively counterbalance shame with pleasure, pride and joy.
Shame is unnecessary and contagious.
Card quote from Annie Ernaux’s Getting Lost
The absence of shame makes trying —to do something new, change how you usually act in a difficult moment, cultivate a practice or ongoing habit that has so far eluded you—less terrifying.
Because shame often comes from fearing failure or actually failing, and then feeling as if the failure has something important to say.
Because shame often comes from fearing failure or actually failing, and then feeling as if the failure has something important to say.
Celine Nguyen • you are good enough as you are
Failure does not have something important to say
For five years, I’ve ceased to experience with shame what can be experienced with pleasure and triumph (sexuality, jealousy, class differences). Shame spreads over everything, prevents any further progress.
Celine Nguyen • you are good enough as you are
[Persistent self-love]...is not the feeling that I am awesome all the time. Instead, it is the total banishment of self-loathing. It is the deactivation of the part of my mind that used to attack itself...It’s the sense that, while I might fuck up, my basic worth is beyond question—I have no essential damage, I am not polluted, I am fine.
Celine Nguyen • you are good enough as you are
Self love means you don’t question your basic worth.