Judging people for conformity shows your lack of compassion and gives it away that you were just like them not too long ago.
We're only really bothered by people who remind us of our recent selves. Just like teenagers can't stand kids and teenagers appear cringe to adults.
Judging people for conformity shows your lack of compassion and gives it away that you were just like them not too long ago. We're only really bothered by people who remind us of our recent selves. Just like teenagers can't stand kids and teenagers appear cringe to adults.
The reward feels good, and we keep doing what others want us to do in order to get the reward. With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else. We try to please Mom and Dad, we try to please the teachers at school, we
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When we carry an excess of self-disgust around with us, operating just below the radar of conscious awareness, we constantly seek confirmation from the wider world that we really are the worthless people we take ourselves to be. The expectation is almost always set in childhood, where someone close to us is likely to have left us feeling dirty and
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