every act of avoidance reinforces avoidance as a strategy, and consecrates the thing avoided as A Thing To Be Avoided
Visakan Veerasamyx.comevery act of avoidance reinforces avoidance as a strategy, and consecrates the thing avoided as A Thing To Be Avoided
A consistent pattern I notice in all hyper-successful people: The emotion they're trying hardest not to feel is exactly what they're recreating.
Avoid failure → Play it safe → Feel like a failure
I call this the Golden Algorithm. Here's how it works: https://t.co/cufOPZnwCK
The most critical element that separates normal from problematic anxiety and fear is this: avoidance, avoidance, and more avoidance. It’s the common tie that binds all anxiety disorders together. Avoidance of fear and anxiety feeds anxiety and fear, and it shrinks lives.
John P. Forsyth • The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free from Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Whatever emotion you try to avoid, you end up inviting into your life - in the exact way you try to avoid it.
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Whether repressed or managed, avoided emotions don’t go away. They return in a pattern I call the “golden algorithm.” It goes like this:
For example: I don’t want to feel like a failure —> I play it safe —&g... See more
- Name an unwanted emotion in your life.
- List the ways you try to avoid it.
- Notice that every way you try to avoid it, you actually create it.
For example: I don’t want to feel like a failure —> I play it safe —&g... See more