you don’t build self trust by monitoring yourself constantly to see if you’re trustworthy
over time, external readings of who you are begin to carry more authority than your own. instincts are run through the world first, checked for acceptability, adjusted before they’re ever acted on. this turns into a skill; anticipating reactions, reading tone, calibrating responses; something that passes as emotional intelligence from the outside... See more
ayushi thakkar • self-trust for people who’ve second-guessed themselves since childhood
Hixon and Swann’s rather bold conclusion was that “Thinking about why one is the way one is may be no better than not thinking about one’s self at all.”
hbr.org • What Self-Awareness Really Is
is introspection always good, and does more introspection automatically lead to increased well-being?