I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers.
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers. Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way. After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
Imagine two people resisting a cigarette. When offered a smoke, the first person says, “No thanks. I’m trying to quit.” It sounds like a reasonable response, but this person still believes they are a smoker who is trying to be something else. They are hoping their behavior will change while carrying around the same beliefs. The second person declin
... See moreJames Clear • Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
the thing I did that seemed completely impossible at the start was this: I started to live my own life, the one that was meant for me.
I stopped listening to what other people said, I stopped listening to what I imagined people were saying. I stopped listening to the nonsense I said. I started listening to my heart. I stopped pretending and started... See more
I stopped listening to what other people said, I stopped listening to what I imagined people were saying. I stopped listening to the nonsense I said. I started listening to my heart. I stopped pretending and started... See more
substack.com • Chinese Food, Serenity and Five Years of Sobriety
When it comes to quitting, the most painful thing to quit is who you are.
Annie Duke • Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away
“Back in my small town, there’s a saying all the doctors use. That the best and only way to get people to truly change their relationships with food and drugs and stuff is to alert them they are pregnant or have diabetes. Nothing else works. Ever. You can say they have lung cancer and ask them to stop smoking cigarettes like they tried with my gran
... See moreBryan R Johnson • DON'T DIE
My active drinking career highlighted a lot of things I didn’t know how to do:
- Be honest with myself.
- Understand my own motivations and needs.
- See my proper place in the world.
- Appreciate my own quirks.
- Believe that I’m enough for the world, as-is.
substack.com • Do the Thing You Don't Know How to Do - By T.B.D.
Frank Brown added
Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever
lesswrong.com • 100 Tips for a Better Life
I didn’t know that all the therapy and journaling and meditation and “work on myself” I did would eventually start to pay off, and that after a lifetime of worrying that people might not like me, I would learn to love and trust myself enough that it would finally stop mattering so much what strangers thought and I could FREAKING RELAX.
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Substack • Notes | Substack
Tara McMullin added
“I couldn’t see myself living this way for the rest of my life.”