My therapist told me this, and it changed my life: "You're not healing to be able to handle trauma, pain, anxiety, depression. You're used to those. You're healing to be able to handle joy and to accept happiness back into your life."

My therapist told me this, and it changed my life: "You're not healing to be able to handle trauma, pain, anxiety, depression. You're used to those. You're healing to be able to handle joy and to accept happiness back into your life." - safe.journal

This is SO well said. The point of healing work is not to form & live inside of an updated blame narrative. It is ultimately to cut whichever emotional cords are keeping us stuck in a state of prolonged reaction to the past rather than behaving autonomously in the present.